{"id":19691,"date":"2015-02-26T10:50:59","date_gmt":"2015-02-26T10:50:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.power2improve.com\/?p=19691"},"modified":"2016-11-01T11:35:13","modified_gmt":"2016-11-01T09:35:13","slug":"are-you-friendly-enough-for-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.power2improve.com\/en\/blog\/2015\/02\/26\/are-you-friendly-enough-for-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"Are you friendly enough for yourself?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Today there is a coach walk on the program. One about difficult emotions. Sadness, fear, anger, shame, despair and defeat. How can you best deal with it, at work and at home? Based on a conversation and some exercises we are going to work. A beautiful gift, such a walk. Both for the client and for me, the coach. It helps the both of us to reflect on what is going on inside us. And thus dealing in a way that makes us more effective: mindfull self-compassion.<\/h3>\n

Like a\u00a0friend<\/h3>\n

The term mindfulness<\/a> is probably\u00a0familiar to you: the power to be fully aware of your experiences, in a non-judgmental way.\u00a0The skill that helps you to live intensely, to make conscious choices, and to learn and to be creative more easily.\u00a0But you are also familiar with the related concept of self-compassion, and how this helps to better perform? No, I ‘m not talking about self-pity, where you let yourself be carried away by your personal drama and you feel like an isolated victim. What self-compassion is about then? Simply put, having compassion for\u00a0yourself.<\/p>\n

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    If you are going through something that touches on your emotions, don’t\u00a0ignore your feelings, but let them emerge in a balanced way: don’t suppress, but do not overdo it either.<\/div><\/li>\n
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    Do not immerse in self-criticism, but give yourself the inner recognition you deserve.<\/div><\/li>\n
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    Encourage yourself, be understanding, have empathy and patience.<\/div><\/li>\n
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    Realize that you’re not the only one who comes across something this\u00a0heavy.<\/div><\/li>\n
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    Be just as warm and gentle to\u00a0yourself as you would be to a friend.<\/div><\/li>\n\n<\/ul>\n

    Motivation<\/h3>\n

    Do you think this ‘soft stuff ‘ isn’t\u00a0for you?\u00a0That speaking to yourself\u00a0strictly\u00a0is the way to take action and achieve your goals?\u00a0The opposite is true, says psychologist, researcher and author of the book Self-Compassion, stop beating yourself up and leave insecurity behind<\/a>, Kristin Neff:<\/p>\n

    ‘Self-criticism undermines the motivation (and thus your ability and effectiveness, NS)<\/em>. Self-Compassion puts you in the best position to do your best.’\u00a0In her\u00a0TEDxTalk Kristin explains why (from 09:41)<\/p>\n