{"id":33287,"date":"2016-10-11T00:01:16","date_gmt":"2016-10-10T22:01:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.power2improve.com\/en\/?p=33287"},"modified":"2016-11-01T11:33:51","modified_gmt":"2016-11-01T09:33:51","slug":"the-8-best-tips-to-work-effectively-with-the-most-difficult-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.power2improve.com\/en\/blog\/2016\/10\/11\/the-8-best-tips-to-work-effectively-with-the-most-difficult-people\/","title":{"rendered":"The 8 best tips to work effectively with the most difficult people"},"content":{"rendered":"

Unbearable people, who doesn’t know them? That one colleague\u00a0who always brags, that neighbor who parks her car in an antisocial way again and again\u00a0or your supervisor who always\u00a0interferes\u00a0with your work\u00a0just a little\u00a0too much. In these situations frustration, gossip or discomfort often arise faster than you’d like.\u00a0According to research by the American psychologists Alan Cavaiola and Neil Lavender you are not alone. Almost everyone who works (about 80 percent) suffers from\u00a0stress symptoms as a result of working with a difficult colleague or boss. Ranging from mild to serious\u00a0complaints. Time to do something about it!<\/h3>\n

Avoiding unbearable types is of course a way to keep you standing. Ultimately, however, this is not a solution, and sometimes the confrontation is\u00a0the only way out. How do you make sure\u00a0that\u00a0you remain master\u00a0of<\/span>\u00a0this kind of situation and keep your head up high when you start and end the conversation? And, what do other people find irritating about you?\u00a0Last week we revealed the secrets\u00a0of dealing with unbearable types with an international group of workshop participants. Curious about the key insights that we shared with them? Below you will find eight top tips for\u00a0working effectively with the most difficult colleagues<\/a>!<\/p>\n

Learn and compliment<\/h2>\n

Most people have a reason to disagree with others. Often times this is related to negative thoughts and\u00a0emotions<\/a>. Self-pity and insecurity (fear) are common ones. Fortunately annoying expressions of unmet needs like\u00a0these are often easy to fix. At times when your colleague is about\u00a0to start acting\u00a0in an irritating way, because (s)he fails at accomplishing something, consider naming things that do go well and praising\u00a0him or her for that. Both receiving\u00a0compliments<\/a>\u00a0and giving them, immediately creates a positive atmosphere and very probably prevents the worst irritations for the future.<\/p>\n

Look for Strength Creators<\/h2>\n

Even though at times it seems\u00a0as if the person you can not stand is doing everything wrong: every person has good qualities that make them\u00a0strong and successful<\/a> as well. Try to focus your attention on that. If only you have an eye for the nice\u00a0way you colleague talks or the beautiful shoes (s)he is wearing. That way, during a nasty confrontation, you keep your attention\u00a0to something positive, and make sure that the frustration does not run\u00a0too high.<\/p>\n

The 8 Best Tips:<\/h2>\n
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  1. Find out when you are unbearable yourself. Discover the positive intentions causing\u00a0this behavior,\u00a0to better understand other unbearables.<\/li>\n
  2. Be aware of your irritation and frustration and see it as a sign that you can deliberately do something about it.<\/li>\n
  3. Accept\u00a0your own\u00a0negative emotions and ask yourself ask yourself what in you is triggered by the other person’s behavior.<\/li>\n
  4. Know where the other person is coming from. Try to understand why (s)he\u00a0is acting the way (s)he is.<\/li>\n
  5. Ask yourself what you do (and can leave out) which exacerbates the behavior of the other.<\/li>\n
  6. Think of why the other person’s behavior\u00a0is irritating you so much.<\/li>\n
  7. Never try to solve something when you or the other person are suffering from negative emotions.<\/li>\n
  8. Acknowledge and accept the emotions the other person experiences.\u00a0Help him or her\u00a0to return to constructive behavior, in the direction of what that person wants to achieve.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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    Learn to deal with your most\u00a0unbearable types<\/h3>\n

    What drives the persons you find most unbearable? And how can you communicate and work with them more effectively? What do other people actually find irritating about you? And how can you prevent that from happening? Answers to questions like these you will receive during the training Dealing with People You Can’t Stand.<\/p>\n

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